I had a tiny little epiphany this evening while perusing through some wedding porn. In the back of my mind a little wheel has been turning that has been having second thoughts. No, not those kind of second thoughts. The kind of second thoughts you have when you see weddings like the ones here: http://www.stylemepretty.com/.
I started to wonder if we should have planned this whole thing differently. I started to wonder if we'll regret not pulling out all the stops. You know, a really fancy venue with big round tables and crisp white tablecloths, carefully constructed floral arrangements, sparkly crystal candle things, an elaborate menu printed on fancy paper with loopy script, a big flowing dress and a three piece suit, limousines, rows of attendants, a DJ, and champagne fountains.
I have to admit, when I look at photographs of other people's weddings I think "Wow. Amazing. So beautiful! Look how they're glowing! So in love!" And then the "I wish we could do that....." or the "I wish I would have thought of that's" start to filter through. And our own little backyard wedding starts to feel.....little.
So you want to know what the epiphany was? While looking at all those pictures of those glowing brides in their thousand dollar gowns, and their fancy up-do's and elaborate table settings, I realized that 1) A lot of these couples are starting their marriages in serious debt to have been able to pull it all off 2) Guests don't usually remember things like the chandeliers or the bows on the chairs, or what font the menu was printed in or what kind of flowers were in the centerpiece. (They remember what they gave you, how much it cost, and if they got a thank you note or not. ) And 3) All of that fancy sparkly glittery stuff? That's all it does; sparkle and glitter. It's a visual cue to the observer that this day means something. Well, duh. You don't need tulle and a 12 piece band to make that clear.
Here is what I know. Our wedding day will be beautiful and meaningful. When it's over, the flowers will wither, the dress will be hung in the closet and the lights will be taken down. But the things that made our wedding day special will remain: our son, our vows, our families, our friends and our home. Those things are the real sparkle in our lives, and they're the things that last. Nothing makes me happier than seeing our son smile, watching my man walk through the door at the end of the day, spending time with friends and laughing until we cry or pee or both, and making time to be together as a family. How very lucky we are.
Friday, April 30, 2010
Monday, April 26, 2010
Getting S**t Done.
With two months to go before the wedding, I'm feeling the pressure. Thankfully, the major bulk of the remodel is behind us, and with that, the wedding preparations seem to be gathering momentum all on their own. I had a feeling this would be the case, and in order to prepare for this moment, I opened a new checking account at our new bank and deposited $1000.
The first thing I did last week was email a couple of barbecue joints around town to get a catering quote. I had a feeling a full blown dinner would be way out of our budget, but for the sake of research, I did it anyway. One place never got back to me, and the other place sent me a quote of $850 for 100 people. That would be 85% of our budget, so clearly that's a no go. After a quick convo with the Intended about nixing diner altogether, we decided we'd rather just do dessert, iced tea, wine and beer. Since we're not really 'cake' people (Well, I am. I'll eat anything sweet. But My Love, not so much. And it's about him as much as it is me. Right?) our dessert of choice will be pies. Lots and lots of pies. And what is more perfect for a picnic than pie?
Anywho, I emailed a local bakery for a quote and (as of this writing) haven't heard back. I'm a little familiar with what they do, and have a rough idea of what dessert would cost if we used them. We're taking in the neighborhood of $200, which isn't terrible considering the entire budget for reception food and beverage is $405. However, there's a little mom and pop diner/bakery on Main Street in downtown Buda that does pie, and on Friday evening I popped in and talked to them about a custom order. The quote they gave me was half what the other one is likely to be. So, one of my tasks for next week is to stop in and have a piece of pie to see if it's tasty. A terrible chore, I know. But someone's gotta do it.
Next up on the list: shoes. I'd been looking online for a while, and found a pair that I absolutely adore. I'm not going to tell you what they look like just yet, because I was there to be some surprise on the actual day. Let's just say they're freakin' adorable, from piperlime.com and were a total of $32.46. Not too shabby, considering the budget for my entire ensemble is $60 and I already have the dress!
I also went ahead and and started a wedding registry. I went around and around for the longest time about even having a registry. For one, it feels weird to make a list of all the things you want so other people can get them for you. Not to mention we're not exactly spring chickens flying the coop with nary a sheet or towel to our names. And third, I think Emily Post or Miss Manners or someone I hold in high regard says it's tacky, especially if it's a second wedding. But just because it's my second time around, why should The Mister be punished forever with mismatched plates and old scratchy towels?
Friday afternoon I left the kiddo with his dad and made a trip to Hobby Lobby to get the supplies to make the wedding invitations. I found some paper online that I wanted to use, but as luck would have it, they didn't carry it in the store. Rather than get discouraged (because with two months to go, I don't really have time for that) I went with plan B which was......well, I just sort of made it up right there on the spot. And I have to say, I am pretty pleased with myself. I'm still tweaking the final design, but I think I'm on the right track. I'll post a picture when I have one finished.
While I was there I also picked up some card stock for the wedding favors. My plan is to cover matchboxes with pretty paper (something like this: http://blog.lilacandivy.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/Matchboxes.jpg) and scatter them around in conspicuous places along with fistfuls of sparklers.
So, since this blog is all about budget, let's have a little recap and see where we're at, shall we? (Oh, and remember that post when I was all like "I"m not telling you how much I spent on the dress 'cause you'll judge me?" Yeah....I had a 'duh' moment when I realized that sort of defeats the whole intention of writing about a budget.....)
So in the interest of full disclosure, here we go:
Reception Venue Rentals $80.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Food Service $300.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Beverages $80.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Cake(s) & Cutting Fee $25.00 Actual spent to date: $0
The Gown & Alterations $60.00 Actual spent to date: $11
Bride's Accessories $10.00 Actual spent to date: $32.46
Hair & Makeup $5.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Prewedding Pampering $5.00 Actual spent to date: $8 (brow wax, courtesy groupon.com)
Groom's Tux or Suit $6.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Groom's Accessories $3.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Officiant Fee/Donation $10.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Bride's Bouquet $7.50 Actual spent to date: $0
Groom & Groomsmen Boutonnieres $2.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Reception Decorations & Centerpieces $40.00 Actual spent to date: $69.00 (white xmas lights and a roll of ribbon)
Ceremony Decorations $14.00 Actual spent to date: see above
Photographer $60.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Videographer $50.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Additional Prints & Videos $10.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Invitations &Reply Cards $25.00 Actual spent to date: $10.24
Other Stationery $5.00 Actual spent to date: $0
His Ring $10.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Her Ring $10.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Favors $15.00 Actual spent to date: $12.74
As you can see, we're making good progress. I still have a few concerns; mainly finding a photographer who's willing to work for, well, er, pie, and finding something for the future husband to wear that doesn't blow the whole budget out of the water.
And now, for your pure viewing pleasure (and to change the subject, because I'm starting to feel stressed out) how's this for the cutest little fella you ever did see?
The first thing I did last week was email a couple of barbecue joints around town to get a catering quote. I had a feeling a full blown dinner would be way out of our budget, but for the sake of research, I did it anyway. One place never got back to me, and the other place sent me a quote of $850 for 100 people. That would be 85% of our budget, so clearly that's a no go. After a quick convo with the Intended about nixing diner altogether, we decided we'd rather just do dessert, iced tea, wine and beer. Since we're not really 'cake' people (Well, I am. I'll eat anything sweet. But My Love, not so much. And it's about him as much as it is me. Right?) our dessert of choice will be pies. Lots and lots of pies. And what is more perfect for a picnic than pie?
Anywho, I emailed a local bakery for a quote and (as of this writing) haven't heard back. I'm a little familiar with what they do, and have a rough idea of what dessert would cost if we used them. We're taking in the neighborhood of $200, which isn't terrible considering the entire budget for reception food and beverage is $405. However, there's a little mom and pop diner/bakery on Main Street in downtown Buda that does pie, and on Friday evening I popped in and talked to them about a custom order. The quote they gave me was half what the other one is likely to be. So, one of my tasks for next week is to stop in and have a piece of pie to see if it's tasty. A terrible chore, I know. But someone's gotta do it.
Next up on the list: shoes. I'd been looking online for a while, and found a pair that I absolutely adore. I'm not going to tell you what they look like just yet, because I was there to be some surprise on the actual day. Let's just say they're freakin' adorable, from piperlime.com and were a total of $32.46. Not too shabby, considering the budget for my entire ensemble is $60 and I already have the dress!
I also went ahead and and started a wedding registry. I went around and around for the longest time about even having a registry. For one, it feels weird to make a list of all the things you want so other people can get them for you. Not to mention we're not exactly spring chickens flying the coop with nary a sheet or towel to our names. And third, I think Emily Post or Miss Manners or someone I hold in high regard says it's tacky, especially if it's a second wedding. But just because it's my second time around, why should The Mister be punished forever with mismatched plates and old scratchy towels?
Friday afternoon I left the kiddo with his dad and made a trip to Hobby Lobby to get the supplies to make the wedding invitations. I found some paper online that I wanted to use, but as luck would have it, they didn't carry it in the store. Rather than get discouraged (because with two months to go, I don't really have time for that) I went with plan B which was......well, I just sort of made it up right there on the spot. And I have to say, I am pretty pleased with myself. I'm still tweaking the final design, but I think I'm on the right track. I'll post a picture when I have one finished.
While I was there I also picked up some card stock for the wedding favors. My plan is to cover matchboxes with pretty paper (something like this: http://blog.lilacandivy.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/Matchboxes.jpg) and scatter them around in conspicuous places along with fistfuls of sparklers.
So, since this blog is all about budget, let's have a little recap and see where we're at, shall we? (Oh, and remember that post when I was all like "I"m not telling you how much I spent on the dress 'cause you'll judge me?" Yeah....I had a 'duh' moment when I realized that sort of defeats the whole intention of writing about a budget.....)
So in the interest of full disclosure, here we go:
Reception Venue Rentals $80.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Food Service $300.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Beverages $80.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Cake(s) & Cutting Fee $25.00 Actual spent to date: $0
The Gown & Alterations $60.00 Actual spent to date: $11
Bride's Accessories $10.00 Actual spent to date: $32.46
Hair & Makeup $5.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Prewedding Pampering $5.00 Actual spent to date: $8 (brow wax, courtesy groupon.com)
Groom's Tux or Suit $6.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Groom's Accessories $3.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Officiant Fee/Donation $10.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Bride's Bouquet $7.50 Actual spent to date: $0
Groom & Groomsmen Boutonnieres $2.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Reception Decorations & Centerpieces $40.00 Actual spent to date: $69.00 (white xmas lights and a roll of ribbon)
Ceremony Decorations $14.00 Actual spent to date: see above
Photographer $60.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Videographer $50.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Additional Prints & Videos $10.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Invitations &Reply Cards $25.00 Actual spent to date: $10.24
Other Stationery $5.00 Actual spent to date: $0
His Ring $10.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Her Ring $10.00 Actual spent to date: $0
Favors $15.00 Actual spent to date: $12.74
As you can see, we're making good progress. I still have a few concerns; mainly finding a photographer who's willing to work for, well, er, pie, and finding something for the future husband to wear that doesn't blow the whole budget out of the water.
And now, for your pure viewing pleasure (and to change the subject, because I'm starting to feel stressed out) how's this for the cutest little fella you ever did see?
Monday, April 19, 2010
Time Is(n't) On My Side....
It's been twelve days since my last post and I have no idea where the time went. If our wedding day sneaks up on me this quickly we are in big, big trouble. I'm picturing slapping some makeup on, a box of cookies and some juice boxes for the kids. You know, the stuff nightmares are made of.
In my last post I may have understated how much we'd accomplished on the remodeling front just a wee bit. Like, did I mention the two bathrooms we still had to totally renovate? My Future Father in Law came (and has been here for two weeks now) to retile, regrout, retoilet, remove and redo the master bath.
Before After
Once that was accomplished, he retiled the floor of the other bath, regrouted the shower and ripped out the sink cabinet and replaced it with a pedestal sink.
Before After
Let me first say I don't have room to complain. About anything. We are extremely lucky to have such a generous man in our lives who is so completely willing to come and give up his time and energy to do the remodeling for us. If left to our own devices it either wouldn't happen or would take years to accomplish. I will be eternally grateful to him for all his hard work. That said, living in a construction zone isn't easy. Keeping the Wee One out of the way, out of the tools and out of the buckets of gunk is tiring. The weather hasn't helped because it's keeping us inside most of the time and as if that wasn't enough, due to some car trouble, we're kinda stranded at the house. Anyone that knows me knows that I don't tolerate messes very well. Let's just say the last couple of weeks, between the weather and the renovating, the state of my floors has been enough to push me to the brink. But what can I do? Nothing. Knowing it's futile to do anything about it until it's done just gives me something to wring my hands over. (At the time of this posting, the FFIL has left, and I vacuumed up the first layer of crud. Hooray!)
So instead of wringing my hands uselessly, I'm updating my minions. Only, I don't have much to update about. I'm thinking about invitations. I'm thinking about food. I'm thinking about a suit and flowers and starting to really, really seriously get kinda freaked out that the wedding is happening in roughly 10 weeks. Oh yeah, did I mention we set a date? The last Saturday of June, the 26th. We're committed, and I think I'm overwhelmed. My inner dialogue lately has been "I can do this. How hard can it be? All I need is to find some catering we can afford, get The Mister a suit and figure out some flowers. We're practically done!" And then I think oh wait. We need an officiant. And a wedding license. And maybe some rings. And I should block out some hotel rooms. Should I do a save the date? Do I need to? What about a registry? We'll probably want pictures of our wedding, so I should find a photographer. And we'll want music, so......I should do something about that, too.
I started a checklist on theknot.com, and according to that, I should send out the wedding invitations three months in advance. Three months?? Since when is that the norm? I always thought it was three to 4 weeks....did something change?
Also, according to that checklist, I have 140 things left to do.
Gulp.
In my last post I may have understated how much we'd accomplished on the remodeling front just a wee bit. Like, did I mention the two bathrooms we still had to totally renovate? My Future Father in Law came (and has been here for two weeks now) to retile, regrout, retoilet, remove and redo the master bath.
Before After
Once that was accomplished, he retiled the floor of the other bath, regrouted the shower and ripped out the sink cabinet and replaced it with a pedestal sink.
Before After
Let me first say I don't have room to complain. About anything. We are extremely lucky to have such a generous man in our lives who is so completely willing to come and give up his time and energy to do the remodeling for us. If left to our own devices it either wouldn't happen or would take years to accomplish. I will be eternally grateful to him for all his hard work. That said, living in a construction zone isn't easy. Keeping the Wee One out of the way, out of the tools and out of the buckets of gunk is tiring. The weather hasn't helped because it's keeping us inside most of the time and as if that wasn't enough, due to some car trouble, we're kinda stranded at the house. Anyone that knows me knows that I don't tolerate messes very well. Let's just say the last couple of weeks, between the weather and the renovating, the state of my floors has been enough to push me to the brink. But what can I do? Nothing. Knowing it's futile to do anything about it until it's done just gives me something to wring my hands over. (At the time of this posting, the FFIL has left, and I vacuumed up the first layer of crud. Hooray!)
So instead of wringing my hands uselessly, I'm updating my minions. Only, I don't have much to update about. I'm thinking about invitations. I'm thinking about food. I'm thinking about a suit and flowers and starting to really, really seriously get kinda freaked out that the wedding is happening in roughly 10 weeks. Oh yeah, did I mention we set a date? The last Saturday of June, the 26th. We're committed, and I think I'm overwhelmed. My inner dialogue lately has been "I can do this. How hard can it be? All I need is to find some catering we can afford, get The Mister a suit and figure out some flowers. We're practically done!" And then I think oh wait. We need an officiant. And a wedding license. And maybe some rings. And I should block out some hotel rooms. Should I do a save the date? Do I need to? What about a registry? We'll probably want pictures of our wedding, so I should find a photographer. And we'll want music, so......I should do something about that, too.
I started a checklist on theknot.com, and according to that, I should send out the wedding invitations three months in advance. Three months?? Since when is that the norm? I always thought it was three to 4 weeks....did something change?
Also, according to that checklist, I have 140 things left to do.
Gulp.
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Wedding Porn
You gotta check out this wedding:
http://offbeatbride.com/2010/04/outdoor-indiana-wedding
Done? Ok. I love this wedding for so many reasons. Let's review, shall we? First, the very first thing she says is 'we took everything we loved and rolled it into one crazy night.' For some reason, probably because I'm a wee bit controlling about things, I've been concerned about not having a 'theme' that runs through our wedding. You know, like a beach theme, or boats or camping or whatever it is that brought and keeps us together. I kept feeling like if we didn't have a theme that represented how we met or some binding feature of our relationship that it meant we weren't good together. How stupid is that? I'm not sure where I got that idea, but I felt like it was something I was 'supposed' to do, so I was stuck on it. But then, over time, as the 'feel' of our wedding started to evolve, I realized the theme is us. And that's enough. We are good together. Great, in fact. We're solid and strong and committed and that's all I need. I don't need sea shell shaped place holders or a cutesy cake topper to tell me that. (Not that there's anything wrong with those things!) So it's refreshing and reassuring to see I'm not the only one that feels that way. Towards the end of her post she even says "forget the 'theme' wedding." Excellent advice.
Moving on. Reason number two I love this wedding? Peeps. They're freakin' adorable. Disgusting, but oh so cute.
My third reason is three words. Tan. Vintage. Suit. And the part about it being $12. Twelve dollars! Can you believe it? I'm so grateful to the bride for the idea to check out vintage stores for something for the Future Mr. Husband to wear. Not that I have a clue how to pick out a suit or would even attempt to try to figure out what would fit, but it will make for a fun outing in the near future!
In my last post I said I was going dress shopping. And just to bring you up to date, I went to the store that had a dress I'd found online that looked perfect. The only one they had was a size 11, and too big. So I took a stroll across the hall to another store, and lo and behold, an almost identical dress, but cuter, and about a third of the price. I don't want to reveal exactly how much I paid for said dress, lest anyone be so distracted by the price that they find themselves thinking "She paid $_____ for that dress???" as I walk down the aisle instead of "Geez, I'm so happy for these guys!" But lets just say that I came in WELL under my $60 budget, leaving a good chunk for shoes, accessories and foundation garments (that's fancy for 'underwear', babe. If you're reading this.)
So. On another note, we're moved into our house. We are also making HUGE progress getting unpacked. I'm kicking myself for not taking 'before' and 'after' pictures from when we had boxes stacked everywhere and what it looks like now. One of the many, many, many things that I love about my FMH is that he has amazing sticktoittiveness. That man does not rest until the job is done, no matter what it is. It keeps me motivated. Just when I'm overwhelmed from unpacking and trying all day long to decide what goes where and I'm ready to call it good enough, he steps in with fresh perspective and helps finish up the last handful of boxes and gets me through the hump of not knowing where to put stuff anymore. We have been kicking butt getting this place in order; the kitchen is soclose to being done, the attic is full of baby stuff and Christmas decorations, and the garage is well on it's way to actually being able to house our cars. We still have some projects to do, of course. Our closets need some attention, we've got too much kitchen stuff and not enough storage and the kiddo's room needs a toy box in a major way. But at this point everything we have left to do hinges on new furniture, and that takes time to acquire.
I'm so proud of us.
http://offbeatbride.com/2010/04/outdoor-indiana-wedding
Done? Ok. I love this wedding for so many reasons. Let's review, shall we? First, the very first thing she says is 'we took everything we loved and rolled it into one crazy night.' For some reason, probably because I'm a wee bit controlling about things, I've been concerned about not having a 'theme' that runs through our wedding. You know, like a beach theme, or boats or camping or whatever it is that brought and keeps us together. I kept feeling like if we didn't have a theme that represented how we met or some binding feature of our relationship that it meant we weren't good together. How stupid is that? I'm not sure where I got that idea, but I felt like it was something I was 'supposed' to do, so I was stuck on it. But then, over time, as the 'feel' of our wedding started to evolve, I realized the theme is us. And that's enough. We are good together. Great, in fact. We're solid and strong and committed and that's all I need. I don't need sea shell shaped place holders or a cutesy cake topper to tell me that. (Not that there's anything wrong with those things!) So it's refreshing and reassuring to see I'm not the only one that feels that way. Towards the end of her post she even says "forget the 'theme' wedding." Excellent advice.
Moving on. Reason number two I love this wedding? Peeps. They're freakin' adorable. Disgusting, but oh so cute.
My third reason is three words. Tan. Vintage. Suit. And the part about it being $12. Twelve dollars! Can you believe it? I'm so grateful to the bride for the idea to check out vintage stores for something for the Future Mr. Husband to wear. Not that I have a clue how to pick out a suit or would even attempt to try to figure out what would fit, but it will make for a fun outing in the near future!
In my last post I said I was going dress shopping. And just to bring you up to date, I went to the store that had a dress I'd found online that looked perfect. The only one they had was a size 11, and too big. So I took a stroll across the hall to another store, and lo and behold, an almost identical dress, but cuter, and about a third of the price. I don't want to reveal exactly how much I paid for said dress, lest anyone be so distracted by the price that they find themselves thinking "She paid $_____ for that dress???" as I walk down the aisle instead of "Geez, I'm so happy for these guys!" But lets just say that I came in WELL under my $60 budget, leaving a good chunk for shoes, accessories and foundation garments (that's fancy for 'underwear', babe. If you're reading this.)
So. On another note, we're moved into our house. We are also making HUGE progress getting unpacked. I'm kicking myself for not taking 'before' and 'after' pictures from when we had boxes stacked everywhere and what it looks like now. One of the many, many, many things that I love about my FMH is that he has amazing sticktoittiveness. That man does not rest until the job is done, no matter what it is. It keeps me motivated. Just when I'm overwhelmed from unpacking and trying all day long to decide what goes where and I'm ready to call it good enough, he steps in with fresh perspective and helps finish up the last handful of boxes and gets me through the hump of not knowing where to put stuff anymore. We have been kicking butt getting this place in order; the kitchen is soclose to being done, the attic is full of baby stuff and Christmas decorations, and the garage is well on it's way to actually being able to house our cars. We still have some projects to do, of course. Our closets need some attention, we've got too much kitchen stuff and not enough storage and the kiddo's room needs a toy box in a major way. But at this point everything we have left to do hinges on new furniture, and that takes time to acquire.
I'm so proud of us.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Reminiscing
Remember, that one time, before home buying and renovating and moving took over my life? When I was talking about a wedding, and planning one on a small budget, and we discussed things like dresses and colors and stuff? Yeah, me too. That was awesome.
So, as a nod to the good old days and an attempt to do something wedding related, I'm going dress shopping today.
And do you remember that one time, when I was all "I'm pretty set on not wearing white...." for all those practical reasons, like I have a kid and stuff? Well, the dress I found that I really, really, really, like is white. Of course. So, consider the crow eaten. I expect this isn't the first time I'm going to make a statement that will have to be retracted later....
So, as a nod to the good old days and an attempt to do something wedding related, I'm going dress shopping today.
And do you remember that one time, when I was all "I'm pretty set on not wearing white...." for all those practical reasons, like I have a kid and stuff? Well, the dress I found that I really, really, really, like is white. Of course. So, consider the crow eaten. I expect this isn't the first time I'm going to make a statement that will have to be retracted later....
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Paul, Art, You Were Mistaken
I have found a flaw with your logic, Simon and Garfunkel. See, in the lyrics to "I Am a Rock" you claim you have "built walls/ A fortress deep and mighty." By yourself? Really? How'd that work out for you? See, 'cause we're only switching out lighting fixtures and taking down cabinet doors, and we can't even do that by ourselves. You must have had a second pair of hands.....
Last Friday we signed the papers and got the keys to our BRAND NEW HOUSE! (thank you Rod Roddy!) and immediately went over to start scoping it out. (By "we", I'm referring to myself, Future Mr. Husband, his parents and his mom's best friend, R. She inspected our house for us, and is an amazing jack of all trades, and a really awesome person.) Once there, we started holding up paint chips, unloading tools, making lists, and figuring out the quickest route to Home Depot. One of the first things on the list were screen clips. Why, you ask? Because within 30 minutes of being in the house, our offspring pushed a screen out and went ass over teakettle out the window. He's okay-just a bump and scratch on the head. I think it took about 5 years off my life, though. And can I just tell you how incredibly grateful I was in that moment that we bought a one story house?
Anyway, we got to work immediately. Cupboard doors came off, primer started going on, counter tops were removed, ceiling fans came down. If it were not for the incredible generosity of of the Future In Laws giving of their time, I'd probably still be standing in the living room in a daze, wondering where to begin. Thanks to their divide-and-conquer attitude, the kitchen is well under way, a bright, shiny new ceiling fan is in the living room, and almost all of the light fixtures have been replaced.
So put that in your pipe and smoke it, Simon and Garfunkel. Besides, y'all are singing the song together.....duh.
Last Friday we signed the papers and got the keys to our BRAND NEW HOUSE! (thank you Rod Roddy!) and immediately went over to start scoping it out. (By "we", I'm referring to myself, Future Mr. Husband, his parents and his mom's best friend, R. She inspected our house for us, and is an amazing jack of all trades, and a really awesome person.) Once there, we started holding up paint chips, unloading tools, making lists, and figuring out the quickest route to Home Depot. One of the first things on the list were screen clips. Why, you ask? Because within 30 minutes of being in the house, our offspring pushed a screen out and went ass over teakettle out the window. He's okay-just a bump and scratch on the head. I think it took about 5 years off my life, though. And can I just tell you how incredibly grateful I was in that moment that we bought a one story house?
Anyway, we got to work immediately. Cupboard doors came off, primer started going on, counter tops were removed, ceiling fans came down. If it were not for the incredible generosity of of the Future In Laws giving of their time, I'd probably still be standing in the living room in a daze, wondering where to begin. Thanks to their divide-and-conquer attitude, the kitchen is well under way, a bright, shiny new ceiling fan is in the living room, and almost all of the light fixtures have been replaced.
So put that in your pipe and smoke it, Simon and Garfunkel. Besides, y'all are singing the song together.....duh.
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Inventory
It won't be officialofficial until we close on Friday, but we're getting our house. The air conditioning issue has been resolved. I've started packing. The give-away pile is growing. I bought two light fixtures today (thank you craigslist) and Future Mr. Husband picked up a truckload of flooring yesterday.
I feel like I should be more excited, but it all feels very surreal at this point. I think once Friday rolls around and the in laws are here and we have the keys in our hot little hands it will sink in and I'll start to get excited. Right now what I'm mainly feeling is overwhelmed.
You see, I hate moving. I really, really, hate moving. I blame it on being a Capricorn. When I was a young and single gal, moving was a choice I made begrudgingly. It usually had to do with rent being raised beyond what I could afford. And so, I'd carry home (yes, carry. I lived and worked downtown and didn't have a car for years) boxes from work or the liquor store every day for about two weeks. I'd pack them up, bribe some friends who had cars with a promise of beer and pizza, and spend the better part of a Saturday shoving bookshelves into a Volkswagen. Sunday I would unpack as much as possible and it was back to work on Monday; a little disoriented but not much worse for the wear. Within a week I had the place feeling like home again.
Each consecutive move since my young and single days has gotten more complicated. To prepare for my move to Austin, I moved from a one bedroom to a more affordable studio apartment (in the same building, at least) where I stayed for a month. Then I moved everything into storage and moved myself onto my friend's couch for a month. Then she and I moved everything from storage into a U Haul, plus all her stuff, plus our combined sewing studio, across the country and into a house we shared in Austin. After a year there, I got pregnant, she got married and we both moved out of that house.
My next move, of course, involved combining my household with Babydaddy's household, which means twice as much stuff. We had barely started unpacking our things in that rental house, we were told it was about to be sold and we had to get the heck out. So six weeks after moving in, we moved out and into the house where we are now.
Over the two and half years that we've been living in our current home, we've managed to acquire a few things. For example:
a person
all the junk that person needs to keep him safe/fed/happy/busy
It's really quite staggering. In two years we've managed to fill an entire bedroom with furniture, a closet floor to ceiling with stuff he outgrew but we might need if and when we have another baby, and every available space that remains with his accouterments; bibs, bowls, spoons, sippy cups, potty chairs, yard toys, trikes and wheely things, toys, toys and toys upon toys.
We have exactly three weeks from this posting to get packed and moved. While I'm here packing, tossing, organizing and sorting, the Future Husband will be working at his job during the day, and going to the new house after work to help his dad install floors, paint cabinets and do other things with tools. I am more than happy to take over the responsibility of packing the house to free him up to work on the new house. Me and tools don't get along so well. But like I said, it's a little overwhelming. Not only do I have an entire house to pack and organize, I have reading for school to do over spring break, regular life type-stuff, like laundry and meals to think about, and then there's that kid that follows me around and wants things. So, a lot going on.
Right now the focus is to try to stay calm, do as much as I can without getting frantic and crazy about it, and remember to feed the toddler. Wish me luck.
I feel like I should be more excited, but it all feels very surreal at this point. I think once Friday rolls around and the in laws are here and we have the keys in our hot little hands it will sink in and I'll start to get excited. Right now what I'm mainly feeling is overwhelmed.
You see, I hate moving. I really, really, hate moving. I blame it on being a Capricorn. When I was a young and single gal, moving was a choice I made begrudgingly. It usually had to do with rent being raised beyond what I could afford. And so, I'd carry home (yes, carry. I lived and worked downtown and didn't have a car for years) boxes from work or the liquor store every day for about two weeks. I'd pack them up, bribe some friends who had cars with a promise of beer and pizza, and spend the better part of a Saturday shoving bookshelves into a Volkswagen. Sunday I would unpack as much as possible and it was back to work on Monday; a little disoriented but not much worse for the wear. Within a week I had the place feeling like home again.
Each consecutive move since my young and single days has gotten more complicated. To prepare for my move to Austin, I moved from a one bedroom to a more affordable studio apartment (in the same building, at least) where I stayed for a month. Then I moved everything into storage and moved myself onto my friend's couch for a month. Then she and I moved everything from storage into a U Haul, plus all her stuff, plus our combined sewing studio, across the country and into a house we shared in Austin. After a year there, I got pregnant, she got married and we both moved out of that house.
My next move, of course, involved combining my household with Babydaddy's household, which means twice as much stuff. We had barely started unpacking our things in that rental house, we were told it was about to be sold and we had to get the heck out. So six weeks after moving in, we moved out and into the house where we are now.
Over the two and half years that we've been living in our current home, we've managed to acquire a few things. For example:
a person
all the junk that person needs to keep him safe/fed/happy/busy
It's really quite staggering. In two years we've managed to fill an entire bedroom with furniture, a closet floor to ceiling with stuff he outgrew but we might need if and when we have another baby, and every available space that remains with his accouterments; bibs, bowls, spoons, sippy cups, potty chairs, yard toys, trikes and wheely things, toys, toys and toys upon toys.
We have exactly three weeks from this posting to get packed and moved. While I'm here packing, tossing, organizing and sorting, the Future Husband will be working at his job during the day, and going to the new house after work to help his dad install floors, paint cabinets and do other things with tools. I am more than happy to take over the responsibility of packing the house to free him up to work on the new house. Me and tools don't get along so well. But like I said, it's a little overwhelming. Not only do I have an entire house to pack and organize, I have reading for school to do over spring break, regular life type-stuff, like laundry and meals to think about, and then there's that kid that follows me around and wants things. So, a lot going on.
Right now the focus is to try to stay calm, do as much as I can without getting frantic and crazy about it, and remember to feed the toddler. Wish me luck.
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